Let’s Talk About Dialogue


You might have great descriptive writing.  You might be able to perfectly describe every detail of your fictional scenery.  You might be able to put your imagination onto the page.  And maybe you’re fantastic at describing actions, throwing in immaculate adjectives and adverbs.

Unfortunately, writing a novel is a lot more than just scenery and actions.  It involves one thing that you NEED to get right: DIALOGUE.

What Does Bad Dialogue Look (…Sound?) Like?

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Let’s be honest with ourselves.  I think we all prefer “realistic-sounding dialogue”.  Nobody likes cheesy one-liners, nobody likes it when we hear a character being all “preachy”.  And sometimes, it’s annoying when a book character has better grammar than us, just because the author was so focused on making the dialogue “perfect”.  We want dialogue that sounds realistic…you know, the way people would really talk in certain situations.

That being said, if we’re still being honest with ourselves…we DON’T want dialogue to be too realistic.

What do I mean?

Listen to a conversation between two ordinary people.  It probably sounds like this:

“Well I was like, you know, uh, shopping for, like, some grapes, pineapples and, uh, carrots…”

Or it sounds like,

“The f***?  Who the f*** would wear those f***ing shoes with that junk-a$$ jacket?”

Am I right, or am I right?


I’m sorry.  I will not compromise.  It’s BAD writing.  I’m not saying it needs to be lofty, Shakespearean poetry.  But the way REAL people talk is REALLY quite dumb a lot of the time.

Don’t fool yourself by thinking that your dialogue is “realistic” because your characters sound as illiterate and trashy as the average person.  Maybe a character in your story IS illiterate and trashy.  But that doesn’t mean your readers will enjoy or take something away from dialogue that is just as pathetic as the way real people talk.

Let’s try to raise the bar for our readers.  Why not show the culture what real talking sounds like, instead of catering to low standards?  Can’t we…I don’t know…HELP society through our writing?

Dialogue That People WANT

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So it needs to be realistic, without sounding like the way real people talk.  This means that our characters are using words that make sense, given a certain situation.  I mean, a lot of things need to be taken into consideration: the personality of the characters that are talking; the genre the book is in (if it’s a comedy/horror/romance); the time period that the book is set in; etc.

Only you understand the situations and the setting of your characters.  These situations and settings will always be unique…which means I can’t provide you with specific guidelines.

That’s why I would challenge you to find other stories that are similar to yours.  Study dialogue in movies or books that you enjoy.  Writing good dialogue doesn’t have to be hard.

Just keep these things in mind:

  1. the way that my characters talk should make sense.  Please, PLEASE make sure that it makes sense.
  2. It should have meaning.  No one likes random talking, or dialogue that drags on and on.  Writers never do anything without purpose.
  3. Be natural.  Don’t be so crafty with your dialogue that it seems like a script.  I mean…it sort of IS a script.  But it should never seem like that.  Could YOU see yourself saying the things that your characters say?

I hope this helps!  Any thoughts?  What do you think makes for good dialogue?

10 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About Dialogue”

  1. I love dialogue. I personally don’t enjoy ‘dumbed up’ dialogue because it’s exactly how people speak. I do however have speech quirks, slang or patterns that are specific to a particular character. I woulnt have an uneducated high school dropout using words that they probably have never heard, but I like realistic conversation to a degree. I agree I’m not looking to read/write dialogue written as if the character is like the ‘cash you ouside.’ girl… gross. On the same note I don’t enjoy reading dialogue littered with words that are so uncommon or out of date it sounds silly.

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    1. Sure! I see what you’re saying. There’s nothing wrong with that. What’s important is that the way a character talks makes SENSE. You seem to have the right idea!


  2. I enjoy writing dialogue. My biggest difficulty is describing actions that may accompany the dialogue, such as: a look, hand movements, body language. I see a visual scene in my head whenever I’m writing, and I discover that sometimes it is so difficult to harness the body language involved with human dialogue.

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    1. Ahhh, well said! That can be difficult, I agree. Especially when a lot of things are going on at once. Sometimes it’s not a bad thing to let the reader imagine the body language that accompanies the dialogue!


  3. YES! YES, thanks! I completely agree with you! Please, peoples, no dumbed down conversations (unless the character is a real idiot) and PLEASE no trashy language. *shudders* I can NOT stand that. Great post!

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