Everyone Wants to Win, But No One Wants to Play

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It’s a frustrating truth: everyone wants to win, but no one wants to play.

What am I talking about?

Everyone is trying to sell something.  There are plenty of bloggers out there who are trying to gain support and traffic for their brand, their product, their work of art.  And I understand that; heck, I’m doing the same thing!

But you know what makes being a seller REALLLLLY hard?

Having nobody that wants to buy.

In today’s world, it’s so easy to be “double-sided”.  It’s easy to “go through the motions”.  I’ve had several people act excited about wanting to buy my book and read it…but then they never did.  I even asked them about it.

Their response?  “Uhh…I don’t have money to spend on your book.  Sorry.”

“It’s 0.99 cents”.


See what I mean?

Look, I have no problem if you don’t want to buy my book.  If you aren’t interested, I’m not going to blame you.  But please…PLEASE don’t lie to me.  That hurts way more.

As bloggers, we need to have a sense of community.  And that community will never exist if we continue to form this false sense of security–this false sense of companionship.  If everyone pats each other on the back, but without actually caring…there will be no community.

Please, let’s just all be honest with each other.  I understand that, at times, it can be hard to tell someone the truth.  I really do.  But that doesn’t mean lying is the answer.

Everyone wants to win.  Everyone is selling something.  But in order to sell something, you need buyers.

And sometimes, to get buyers, you need to buy.

Sig and Armstrong

Be a part of a community.  Take a chance with someone else’s work.  Believe me, it’ll work wonders for you and your community.

Recently, a duo of blogging brothers published a new story on Amazon.  What did I do?  I bought it right away.  Was it my kind of story?  No.  But did I at least give them a chance?  Yes.  And that’s what matters.

Be a part of a community.  Participate.

That’s how you win!

What do you think?

19 thoughts on “Everyone Wants to Win, But No One Wants to Play”

  1. I don’t like to think of it as selling and buying (I know it is but I find that view very cold), It is more, as you mentioned later on, just being a part of a community and knowing that you have to give and take, you can’t always just take. For me the question always comes back to whether or not I am contributing something to the community (though sometimes that’s a hard question to answer).
    Thanks for sharing.

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    1. It’s true, sometimes I wonder if I’m making any impact at all. Social media and blogging can have some serious “faith” moments. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!


  2. I definite agree about the blogging community. We need to support each other. That’s why I started my WordPress TBR. It’s not just a list to remind me what to read, it also promotes the books 🙂
    My struggle at the moment is finding the time to read…

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    1. Well I’m glad you agree, and yes, let me take the time to say thank you for starting your TBR list! It’s already affected me in a positive way!
      And yes haha, I agree…

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      1. No I’m serious! It means a lot to me and it kind of just brightens my mood towards advertising my book…it just means a lot to know that someone cares. 🙂 We need more people like you!

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      2. This.. Pouring words out onto pages means so much more when you know that someone out there is reading it. To know that someone cares (even caring enough to comment!) is a bigger part of writing than most writers will admit.

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      3. It’s so true. As time goes on, we don’t want to keep our thoughts and our feelings to ourselves. They are meant to be heard. Writing suddenly becomes something that needs the attention of others, not just ourselves.

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  3. Like Karandi, I find this view on blogging quite cold. However, logically-speaking, we as bloggers are indeed selling our brands. This makes sense. But I think that more than self-promotion, being a part of the aniblogging community is about connecting with fellow anime fans who we can share our passions with.

    Interesting post to read. Makes me think. Keep it up. Cheers!

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  4. I agree! I think any relationship in general needs a give-and-take and that’s no different from relationships in a writing and blogging community. 🙂

    That said, I have to apologise for promising to buy your book but not being able to through Amazon (and physical books aren’t viable due to an incoming major move next year). I’m really sorry about that. 🙁

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    1. It’s okay! No worries. Once my Kindle Lending period is up, I’ll be publishing it as an eBook other places, so it’ll be more available in november!

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