It’s difficult moving forward in life when you don’t know exactly where you want to go.
There are phases that we go through; times when you’re convinced of your convictions, and when beliefs seem to feel like the truth. But once these phases lose their luster and the part of you that was originally stone turns to sand…
…all that’s left is your hollow, formless body, driven by the wind.
There will always be decisions to make; we know that. And we can control what decisions we make. But we can never see the future or know whether or not our choices will make us happy. We can choose a path, but we don’t know where it leads. How can we choose when so much seems to hang in the balance?
In regards to phases, it seems fair to ask Which phases stayed the longest? Which phases keep reoccurring? Are these really not phases at all, but simply something that must be rekindled again and again?
I am in love with writing. I am in love with my girlfriend. I am in love with God and my faith. I am good at many, many things. I am a people person. I am a strong person. I am a weak person. I am a doubtful person. I am a realistic person. I am a hopeful person.
I need money. I need friends. I need God. I need love. I need security.
I want happiness. I want everything. I want to need nothing.
Who am I? Where am I going? What does God want from me?
What choices can I make that will fulfill all these longings?
College. Heh. That’s what it will do to you.
“What if my story isn’t good enough?”
“What if no one likes my idea?”
“Do I feel bored of my own idea?”
Have you ever had these doubts? Of course you have. If you’re a writer, then you’ve probably wrestled with these fears before, or you’re wrestling with them right now. We constantly fear being rejected, being forgotten, or seeing our hard work go to waste.
The truth is, writing a story is a lot like being in a relationship.
“What if he doesn’t like me”
“What if I’m not good enough for her?”
“Do I feel bored with my relationship?”
It’s crazy how similar writing is to a relationship. What’s important to remember, I think, is that, as in relationships, we have to PERSEVERE. I mean, if a relationship isn’t good for us or the other person, usually we stop, right? Hopefully we do. And the same goes with writing. If a “story relationship” REALLY isn’t working out, meaning you don’t feel captivated by your own story, or you are feeling like it isn’t worth it, then maybe it’s time to find a different story.
HOWEVER, it’s okay to just “not feel it” some days. That happens in real life relationships…but that doesn’t mean the relationship is bad. Bad days happen. Good days also happen too. And it’s important to remember that and, once again, PERSEVERE.
You’re never going to get what you want and be where you want to be in ANY kind of relationship unless you persevere.
Rekindle your imagination. Think of your favorite parts. Rewrite and reread. Fall in love again. Make plans. Take breaks. And, most importantly, be patient. Great writers don’t fall from the sky, so you probably won’t either!
Writing a story is like being in a relationship. What’s your relationship like?
So I’ve been graciously nominated for the Blogger Recognition Award by Acire over at Scribe’s Canvas. Her blog is amazing, you should seriously check it out here!
Here’s how it works:
- Write a post to show your award
- Give a brief story of how your blog started
- Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers
- Select 15 other bloggers for the award
- Make sure you tell those 15 bloggers that they’ve been nominated!
So let’s get started!
How my blog started
I began this blog right after I finished writing the first book of my fantasy series, The Golden Lands. I was excited because I had been blogging about an even older series over at Montairyus, but this was a new and fresh idea, and I was excited to share it with the blogosphere.
Basically, I began this blog as a means of sharing my writing talents with others, especially through my book series, which is now called Elithius.
Advice to New Bloggers
Don’t stop writing. If you want more followers, you have to write.
Don’t write about your personal endeavors too much. Write about stuff that OTHER people can care about, not just your supportive family members!
Well, first I have to go find some people 😉
Thanks again Acire, and thank all of YOU for the constant support you give me!
I love how much my blog has grown and how involved my community is! You guys rock!!
Not many people even know that there is a March for Life every January. Hardly any news or media sources ever cover it, because it’s “unpopular”, so I’ve decided to.
Over half a million people attend each year, men, women and children alike. The cause? Ever since the infamous decision of Roe Vs. Wade in 1973, abortion was legalized in the United States. Half a million people in Washington D.C. alone, not including the march that occurs in San Francisco, peacefully protest for the Supreme Court to overthrow Roe Vs. Wade.
We believe that life is sacred from conception to natural death, and this deeply includes the life of a child during the earliest stages of his or her life. We believe that a “person is a person, no matter how small”, and that “our worth is not based on circumstances, but in our shared humanity.”
We have nothing against the rights of women, and the right to privacy of a woman’s body. Nothing at all, in fact. Many great women are supporters of the pro-life movement (can you argue with Mother Teresa?). The problem is, we believe (or know) that we aren’t talking about the body of the mother, when it comes to abortion. The body in question is the baby’s. Women don’t have two heads, two hearts, and eight limbs during pregnancy. The baby is attached to the uterus, and his/her cells have their own genetic code/DNA. We aren’t talking about the body of the woman/mother, who DOES have a right to her body. But that woman/mother should NOT have the right to kill and dispose of the body of her child, who is another human being.
I know there are cases of abortion where the line between right and wrong seems to get blurry. “What if a woman is raped? Don’t you have any sympathy for her?”
Yes, absolutely. In fact, I don’t think it would be right to condemn a mother who was in a desperate situation, without anyone to help her, and she chose to have an abortion. But that doesn’t make abortion right; it doesn’t mean you can kill a completely helpless, innocent person. Abortion is objectively evil, even if it is sometimes subjectively understandable…unfortunately, that still doesn’t make it OK.
I understand why some people view abortion as a “necessary evil”. But that’s why SO many people in the pro-life movement are there to help mothers in need. Whereas Planned-Parenthood doesn’t offer women any true assistance or prenatal care (if you don’t believe me, just call PP!), there are plenty of Crisis Pregnancy Centers where women are given the help they need. Adoption is an option, too!
There is a need for change in America, and that’s why we march. Babies need us!
What do you think? Also, if you disagree with this article, let’s have an intellectual DISCUSSION, not a biased rant where we attack each other.
You know that’s all anyone ever asks for. A chance. A chance to prove to you that they are who they say they are. A chance to prove that they’re worth your time. And the sad but beautiful thing about this world is that we have to rely on each other. We have to rely on other people to give us a chance. We can’t give ourselves the opportunities we seek.
This world is built on charity; and if it’s not, it will fall apart…just like it is. Because instead of being built on charity, our world is built upon greed.
Just give it a chance. Give me a chance: that’s all any writer can ask for.
Yes, this is a sob story, or a “sob-post”. I hope you don’t mind. I just feel that it’s necessary for people to be completely honest with other human beings. If I need your help, if I want something from you, I’m going to tell you. Hopefully you feel that you can do the same thing. We should feel like, as a community of bloggers, as a community of people, that we can reach out to each other and receive an answer.
Thanks for reading.
Showing you how awesome anime is…with happy pictures!!!
Sundays are a great day for spending time with the people you love…happy Sunday!!!
Showing you how awesome anime is…with gorgeous scenery!!!
To this day, I still don’t exactly understand what’s happening in the sky. But it looks awesome 😉