It’s a frustrating truth: everyone wants to win, but no one wants to play.
What am I talking about?
Everyone is trying to sell something. There are plenty of bloggers out there who are trying to gain support and traffic for their brand, their product, their work of art. And I understand that; heck, I’m doing the same thing!
But you know what makes being a seller REALLLLLY hard?
Having nobody that wants to buy.
In today’s world, it’s so easy to be “double-sided”. It’s easy to “go through the motions”. I’ve had several people act excited about wanting to buy my book and read it…but then they never did. I even asked them about it.
Their response? “Uhh…I don’t have money to spend on your book. Sorry.”
“It’s 0.99 cents”.
See what I mean?
Look, I have no problem if you don’t want to buy my book. If you aren’t interested, I’m not going to blame you. But please…PLEASE don’t lie to me. That hurts way more.
As bloggers, we need to have a sense of community. And that community will never exist if we continue to form this false sense of security–this false sense of companionship. If everyone pats each other on the back, but without actually caring…there will be no community.
Please, let’s just all be honest with each other. I understand that, at times, it can be hard to tell someone the truth. I really do. But that doesn’t mean lying is the answer.
Everyone wants to win. Everyone is selling something. But in order to sell something, you need buyers.
And sometimes, to get buyers, you need to buy.
Be a part of a community. Take a chance with someone else’s work. Believe me, it’ll work wonders for you and your community.
Recently, a duo of blogging brothers published a new story on Amazon. What did I do? I bought it right away. Was it my kind of story? No. But did I at least give them a chance? Yes. And that’s what matters.
Be a part of a community. Participate.
That’s how you win!
What do you think?
Have you ever been able to tell that to someone? “Yeah, I’m a writer.”
It feels awesome. Naturally, we don’t like to share things about ourselves with people we don’t know. That being said, telling people about our love of writing seems like something we all look forward to. I know I do. I’m proud of what I love, and, if you’re like me, you’re dying for someone to listen to you talk about your writing experiences.
So maybe we like telling people “I’m a writer”.
But do we even realize what we’re saying?
If you really are a writer, analyze what I’m about to say with a writer’s eye. By saying “I am a writer”, what verb are you using?
“Am”. It’s a verb of being.
Do you realize what you are saying?
Some would say that you are defining something deep about yourself…something so deep, it’s akin to your very nature. What is the definition of nature, as ascertained by philosophers that are way smarter than me?
“Nature-Essence at its center of activity: a thing’s fundamental function”
To say that you ARE a writer implies that it is your nature. It is your fundamental function.
I dare you. I DARE you. Ask yourself a simple question:
“Am I really a writer?”
(“Or do I just write from time to time?”)
Does writing define who you are? Do you need writing? Is writing your fundamental function?
I’ve read a lot of stories about the experiences of successful authors. What those stories had in common was how much those authors had to dive into a lifestyle of writing, whether it was easy or not. They made writing their fundamental function. It was write or die.
My dear followers, are you willing to do the same?
Are you a writer?
If the answer is “no”, then what are you willing to give?
If you want to be successful, if you want to be true to yourself, don’t just write.
Be a writer…
…so that you can say this and know it in your heart: “I. Am. A. Writer.”
Now go for it, and apply this to any part of your life that involves (or should involve) passion.
What do you think?
The power of the mind is incredible. The power of our own emotions, our own imagination, is incredible. We take in so much information around us; ever since we were fetuses, ever since we were babies, we were able to process information. And we continue to do this constantly.
The mind is incredibly powerful…so it’s not surprising that your mind can turn against you.
Sometimes we learn things from our surroundings. We process things without needing to think about it. I can see the doorway ahead of me, therefore I head there, and not into the wall.
However, sometimes things happen in which we do sit down and ponder “What just happened? What does this mean?” And that’s when our mind really becomes powerful.
Because we can influence ourselves, depending on the circumstances or the information we have…or the information we think we have. And the more powerful our mind grows, the more we start to analyze and think about what’s wrong…what’s wrong with ourselves, what’s wrong with this situation, or this event, or that person.
And it so happens that, because our mind is so powerful, but our spirits are weak…we start to doubt.
We doubt ourselves. We doubt the people around us. We don’t even dare to hope, that’s how much we doubt.
Are you powerful enough to overcome your own mind?
Your mind is telling you to doubt. You can’t do it. You’ll never make it. You’re not good enough. The world won’t let you. God won’t let you. This is what your mind is constantly telling you, because you’re so smart, because this is how you processed the information, or how you interpreted the happenings of this or that event.
But are you willing to be stronger than your own mind…and BELIEVE?
Are you willing to have faith? Are you willing to care, even when your mind says it’s stupid?
The mind is strong. So make your spirit stronger. Have faith. It is a quality that all writers must have.
What do you think?
“Hi, my name’s Dominic, and I’m a self-centered asshole.”
….said no one ever. (Especially if your name isn’t Dominic 😉 )
Look people, I love blogging about my personal endeavors as much as the next writer. But if that’s all you have to offer to your audience, your blog will suddenly become increasingly one-sided.
I’ve seen this time and time again. Maybe certain authors/bloggers aren’t TRYING to be self-centered, or assholes (pardon the language), but it sure can come across like that. ALL they talk about is their personal endeavors. They ask for reviews. They ask you to “share” and “spread the word”. Basically, the only person they are invested in is THEMSELVES.
Don’t be that person.
Many of us blog because we are trying to promote something. I know I am. I’m a self published author and I’d like people to read my books. But that doesn’t mean I spend all my time focusing on just me. And there are plenty of other bloggers out there who are behaving the same way. We know that being self-centered is wrong, stupid, and unfulfilling.
So don’t be that person that focuses on being a consumer. Don’t be that person that asks for favors but never pays attention to anyone else. You’ll never get anywhere like that.
Be helpful. ASK for suggestions. Ask for criticism. ACCEPT criticism. Get involved in OTHER people’s projects.
As always, What do you think?
Yes, I am also promoting something. If you’re interested, you can check out my fantasy novel Elithius here.
That’s right everyone. The time is coming.
In case you didn’t know, I have successfully finished Book Two of my fantasy series, Elithius.
I know this is going to sound cliche, but it’s actually the truth. I’m pretty honest with myself and with you guys, so believe me when I say: this book is going to be better than the first.
So here it is:
Release date for Elithius, Book Two: The Darkness Within —— December 18, 2017
For those of you that know me well, you might remember that December 18th is my birthday 🙂
I know December 18th seems like a long time to wait, but I’m a freshmen in college, so I want to give myself plenty of time to prepare. I need time to edit the story, make sure it’s perfect, and work with my cover artist.
Elithius, Book Two is coming everyone!
As always, I’d like to thank everyone for their continued support of me. You guys rock. Like seriously. I have been so blessed with a vibrant, caring community of writers…and readers! I couldn’t do this without you.
Alright everyone, I’m only 11 days away from college! It’s all happening so fast…I’m not sure I’m totally prepared for all the changes happening in my life.
But…as usual…oh well 🙂
Some updates! I FINALLY got a new computer. It’s a nice, silver, shiny HP that actually has this weird retro look (kind of like those old Dell computers). But it’s a great model and it should serve me well throughout college.
Another update: I…um…well…FINISHED BOOK TWO OF ELITHIUS!!!
You read that correctly.
Book two of my fantasy series, Elithius, is finally complete. I don’t have a cover to show off (yet), but here’s a brief overview of the story!
Name: Elithius, Book Two: The Darkness Within
Length: 375+ pages
Plot: John Hedekira and his friends must venture into the Gray Lands in order to rescue John’s sister, Cassie. Upon entering the Gray Lands, they make new friends…and new enemies. Before they know it, they are thrown into the middle of a raging war, in which loyalties and friendships will be tested, darker and more heinous powers will challenge them…and souls will be ripped apart.
The adventures of John and his friends have only begun.
More information to come! As always, let me know what you think!
Interested in reading book one of Elithius? Grab a copy here.
“What if my story isn’t good enough?”
“What if no one likes my idea?”
“Do I feel bored of my own idea?”
Have you ever had these doubts? Of course you have. If you’re a writer, then you’ve probably wrestled with these fears before, or you’re wrestling with them right now. We constantly fear being rejected, being forgotten, or seeing our hard work go to waste.
The truth is, writing a story is a lot like being in a relationship.
“What if he doesn’t like me”
“What if I’m not good enough for her?”
“Do I feel bored with my relationship?”
It’s crazy how similar writing is to a relationship. What’s important to remember, I think, is that, as in relationships, we have to PERSEVERE. I mean, if a relationship isn’t good for us or the other person, usually we stop, right? Hopefully we do. And the same goes with writing. If a “story relationship” REALLY isn’t working out, meaning you don’t feel captivated by your own story, or you are feeling like it isn’t worth it, then maybe it’s time to find a different story.
HOWEVER, it’s okay to just “not feel it” some days. That happens in real life relationships…but that doesn’t mean the relationship is bad. Bad days happen. Good days also happen too. And it’s important to remember that and, once again, PERSEVERE.
You’re never going to get what you want and be where you want to be in ANY kind of relationship unless you persevere.
Rekindle your imagination. Think of your favorite parts. Rewrite and reread. Fall in love again. Make plans. Take breaks. And, most importantly, be patient. Great writers don’t fall from the sky, so you probably won’t either!
Writing a story is like being in a relationship. What’s your relationship like?